When I’m trusting and being myself… everything in my life reflects this by falling into place easily, often miraculously. ~Shakti Gawain
I have been thinking quite a bit about this and a related topic. I feel very compelled to blog about this as I believe it’s an important message and thought to share.
Life has been interesting for me, to say the least. The road that I have traveled has been long, action-packed and difficult at times. I’ve often had the feeling that I have 9 lives and have lost 2 of them during this journey. That’s ok… I still have 7 lives left. In recent years, my life has taken a very interesting twist for the better… better than it ever has been, actually. Let me explain…
Many people journey through life complaining about things that “happen” to them. Especially since typically the same things “happen” over and over again. It comes to a point where it is now expected. What people don’t realize, though, is that when you expect these things to happen, you are drawing it to you. Wherever your mind focus is, life will bring that focus to you. So the expectation itself draws the event to you over and over again. This leads to a downward spiral of feeling victim to life. So instead of enjoying life and all it has to offer, you become a victim of what happens to you… feeling tied and bound to the chains of life. Desperate, angry, belligerent. I know this role too well… I played it for years.
In recent years, though, there has been an incredible shift in my life. Not because anything amazing or necessarily “good” happened to me. Well, I take that back. Something amazing did happen but it wasn’t to me, it was within me. I was finally blessed with some time to sit and think by the need of a shoulder surgery (of all things). Previously, years of my life flew by in a go-go-go fashion. But this surgery required me to stay still. Alone. With all my thoughts.
As soon as those floodgates of thought opened, there was no stopping it. In this process, I had a great epiphany. I was not ME. I was nowhere close to the person I wanted to become. I was miserable. My marriage was a joke. Many of the people in my life were Negative Nellies. I settled a lot. I hated it all. At that point, I vowed to change and a mass purging began. I purged people that brought me down, negative thoughts that destroyed my mind, things I didn’t need… clutter, nonsense, chaos and general bullshit. I got rid of it all and am in the final stages of finishing the purge.
The important point, though, is this… once the process began… once the decision to make changes began… once my mindset shifted to something more positive and uplifting… and once I ALLOWED a better life for myself, I began to live a better life. I find myself consistently being in the right place at the right time meeting the right people. I have constant opportunities that flow to me. I meet some of the most incredible people I have ever met in my entire life! I find myself the recipient of many things. Opportunity is literally everywhere I turn… not because of luck, not because of education, not because of a strong network (although my network grows stronger as these opportunities come to me), but because I changed my outlook on life, the way I look at things, my attitude and have opened myself up to allow good things to come to me.
A simple shift in mindset and outlook can change it all, in an instant. Some people get it and some never will. Do you?
Blessings,
Tula Rainwater
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Excellent post Tula! It’s pretty cool that you wrote on this as it’s been the topic of many of the conversations I’ve had today. It was even the subject of a training call I was on earlier tonight. The Law of Attraction is very real! Good stuff as always!
Ah, Rex… my Aries brother from another mother!! LOL You and I are always in sync! The Law of Attraction is truly alive, well and real. I have so much proof of it for sure. Thanks for stopping by and commenting… and your constant support!
Good Post Tula.
This reminds me of the old poem:
Two men looking out through the bars
One looking down saw only the mud
The other looking up saw only the stars
Our attitude towards life affects everything around and about us. We all of us have opportunity for both success and failure. Our attitudes and choices determine our destination, not the things where we have no control.
You said it even better than I did, Glenda! Thanks for coming by and reading!
As I start to make more changes in my life, how awesome is that I am lead here to you once again. Thanks for the gentle reminder to be what I want in my life.
Michelle, I’m so glad you came by! I got your Skype the other day… of course I would like to stay in your contact list! Contact me anytime if you need anything. If I’m not available, I will always get back to you!
Wow what a great post, as always. You took me back to about 4 years ago when I was first introduced to the Secret, and did my purge. You can’t get any where if you have a small circle of influence, especially if that influence is negative people. I remember telling a few people “well if all you can be is negative then I don’t have time for you.” As a matter of fact it’s sad but one of these people is my father. When I started an online business years ago he said “I wouldn’t make money online.” “It wont go anywhere.” “Be a grownup and get a real job.” Well even he is out of my life until he can come around and be more positive. See, most people are scared to live life the way it was meant to be lived. Instead they live in fear. In fear of success and fear of life in general. Stay away from these people for they will rob you of the true dream of life and freedom the way it was meant to be. Surround yourself with positive people and your life will change. Thanks again Tula for your wonderful thoughts and words. They scream positivity. They resonate success. You are a work of art my friend. I am proud to call you a friend.
The Blakester
Robert Blakely
Robert, thank you so much for your response. As I stated in my 2010 New Decade post, one of the lessons I’ve learned in life is that fear is the single most crippling agent in life. At some point, you have to trust yourself, your dreams, and place trust in life. I am surely at that point now. Negative people will only suck the life out of you and leave you drained. There is no room or time for such people in my life, either. I am proud of you for going through the process. Clearly, based on the positive and extremely supportive person you are, this purging has done wonders for you and you have come out on top!
Wow… a work of art! Can’t say I’ve been called that before… that’s surely a beautiful compliment and I thank you for it! Thanks for being a great friend and a critical part of my support system. I’m proud to call you a friend, as well.
Amazing post Tula!
“Something amazing did happen but it wasn’t to me, it was within me.”
What a great line! We all have it within us. I find it amazing when I look back at how easy it really is to let those positive thoughts come forth. It used to be that when things seemed bad and it didn’t look like there was any way out, I could never find the positives. They were there, I just wasn’t looking for them because I was focused on the negative. Now, everything can have a positive outcome.
I to am blessed to know people like you, Rex, Robert, etc.
Thank you Tula for sharing your stories!
Bill
Great post! I resonated with it. It is true that when you find yourself in the same situation over and over again, you have to ask yourself why. Some call that the definition of insanity. But it is more than that. It is hard for people to wrap their mind around the fact that they are responsible for their own lives and that is a good thing! The mind is so powerful and we can use it to help us or hurt us.
Thanks for a great post. I just wanted to leave with a quote from Dr. Wayne Dyer, “when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”