Comments on: Goodbye To You http://tularainwater.com/blog/2010/07/goodbye-to-you/ Life Lessons and Reflections of a Revived Christian Tue, 13 Dec 2011 19:27:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Tula Rainwater http://tularainwater.com/blog/2010/07/goodbye-to-you/#comment-59 Tula Rainwater Sat, 24 Jul 2010 18:51:44 +0000 http://tularainwater.com/blog/?p=75#comment-59 Brian, Look at you replying publicly to my blog! Thanks for commenting! You've just won yourself some points... I like people with guts of putting themselves out there! LOL I think for women it depends. I've known women that date a new guy to help get over the old one and I've known other women like me that need time in-between guys. Now, it also depends on the type of relationship. If it is casual dating, I would have no issue dating someone else right after wards. But when it's something more serious like really connecting with someone and sharing deep feelings, I typically need more time before dating someone else. I would like to point out that this post isn't directed at only romantic relationships. I have been through friendships that have come and gone as well. Some of those goodbyes I have initiated and some were initiated by the friend. Saying goodbye to friends can be just as painful as saying goodbye to a lover. Tula Brian,
Look at you replying publicly to my blog! Thanks for commenting! You’ve just won yourself some points… I like people with guts of putting themselves out there! LOL

I think for women it depends. I’ve known women that date a new guy to help get over the old one and I’ve known other women like me that need time in-between guys. Now, it also depends on the type of relationship. If it is casual dating, I would have no issue dating someone else right after wards. But when it’s something more serious like really connecting with someone and sharing deep feelings, I typically need more time before dating someone else.

I would like to point out that this post isn’t directed at only romantic relationships. I have been through friendships that have come and gone as well. Some of those goodbyes I have initiated and some were initiated by the friend. Saying goodbye to friends can be just as painful as saying goodbye to a lover.

Tula

]]> By: Brian Lannoye http://tularainwater.com/blog/2010/07/goodbye-to-you/#comment-58 Brian Lannoye Sat, 24 Jul 2010 17:14:28 +0000 http://tularainwater.com/blog/?p=75#comment-58 I think it's similar. Men have to allow themselves time to grieve as well as women. I don't know that there is so much crying though. At least I'm not going to admit it here, I am a guy after all..:^) Of course for us, there is nothing better for getting over your past girlfriend than having your arm around a your new girlfriend. Is it really that different for women? I like what you said about allowing the feelings to come and treating yourself tenderly. It's good guidance. I'm going to go take a bike ride :) I think it’s similar. Men have to allow themselves time to grieve as well as women. I don’t know that there is so much crying though. At least I’m not going to admit it here, I am a guy after all..:^) Of course for us, there is nothing better for getting over your past girlfriend than having your arm around a your new girlfriend. Is it really that different for women?

I like what you said about allowing the feelings to come and treating yourself tenderly. It’s good guidance. I’m going to go take a bike ride :)

]]> By: Tula Rainwater http://tularainwater.com/blog/2010/07/goodbye-to-you/#comment-55 Tula Rainwater Fri, 23 Jul 2010 23:26:08 +0000 http://tularainwater.com/blog/?p=75#comment-55 Supergranny, thank you for listening and caring. I always appreciate you and your friendship. Pain is a simple part of life. We all must go through it at points. Ultimately, it's not the pain that matters or the situations we go through, but how we deal with them and the lessons we learn from them. From experience I know that after the pain, things always end up even better than they were before. My whole life has been this way and I know deep down that once this passes, things will be better than ever. As I continue to grow and learn lessons of life I become sharper, stronger, as well as more compassionate, caring and prosperous. I welcome pain when it comes because I know after the thunderstorm a glorious rainbow always awaits me. Supergranny, thank you for listening and caring. I always appreciate you and your friendship.

Pain is a simple part of life. We all must go through it at points. Ultimately, it’s not the pain that matters or the situations we go through, but how we deal with them and the lessons we learn from them.

From experience I know that after the pain, things always end up even better than they were before. My whole life has been this way and I know deep down that once this passes, things will be better than ever.

As I continue to grow and learn lessons of life I become sharper, stronger, as well as more compassionate, caring and prosperous. I welcome pain when it comes because I know after the thunderstorm a glorious rainbow always awaits me.

]]> By: The Superganny http://tularainwater.com/blog/2010/07/goodbye-to-you/#comment-54 The Superganny Fri, 23 Jul 2010 21:15:07 +0000 http://tularainwater.com/blog/?p=75#comment-54 What can I say Tula? I wish I could help you, but all I can do is listen and care. with love and prayers from Mary B What can I say Tula?
I wish I could help you, but all I can do is listen and care.
with love and prayers from Mary B

]]> By: Tula Rainwater http://tularainwater.com/blog/2010/07/goodbye-to-you/#comment-53 Tula Rainwater Fri, 23 Jul 2010 19:57:54 +0000 http://tularainwater.com/blog/?p=75#comment-53 Thanks, Rex. Now do you care to elaborate on the difference in emotions? Inquiring minds want to know! LOL Thanks, Rex. Now do you care to elaborate on the difference in emotions? Inquiring minds want to know! LOL

]]> By: Rex Harris http://tularainwater.com/blog/2010/07/goodbye-to-you/#comment-52 Rex Harris Fri, 23 Jul 2010 18:42:02 +0000 http://tularainwater.com/blog/?p=75#comment-52 Hey Tula, wow... insightful post. It's interesting to see the way in which emotions are so different between guys and gals. Maybe I'm just getting cynical in my old age, who knows... lol. Excellent post though! Hey Tula, wow… insightful post. It’s interesting to see the way in which emotions are so different between guys and gals. Maybe I’m just getting cynical in my old age, who knows… lol. Excellent post though!

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